5 Ways to Fight Insecurity
BY DR. ROBERT E. FOWLER
I was talking with a young pastor who is feeling overwhelmed by the responsibility he’s been given. His church expects a lot from him — leading the congregation, preaching great messages, visiting the sick and the well — and he doesn’t always feel qualified to deliver. He accepted the position knowing there would be challenges, and knew he would have to walk by faith — which he wanted to do. But now he’s wondering if he’s in over his head.
I realized he was dealing with a huge dose of insecurity. What’s the best way to deal with insecurity?
Here are five ways:
Insecurity often develops when people compare themselves to others. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Be yourself. Realize that God did not make a mistake in designing you. Someone believed in your abilities — so stop comparing and start living in your own skin.
Concentrate on your abilities
What are you good at doing? Make a list of your good qualities. You probably have more than you think. In times of feeling insecure, we often forget who we are — and how God has shaped us through life experiences. Keep your list handy. It will help you to feel more confident if you focus more on your positives than your negatives.
Surround yourself with people who complement your weaknesses
Part of being healthy is the strength that comes from different people. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are probably people who can do things you don’t feel comfortable doing. It’s not a sign of weakness to get others involved. It’s actually a sign of strength.
Seek wisdom from others. Read books. Take additional classes. Knowledge is power. The more you grow in information, the more competent you will feel in your role. (By the way, when I feel overwhelmed or insecure, I read stories like those of Gideon, Moses, Joseph, David or Joshua in the Bible. It is great encouragement.)
Ultimately, find your identity in what’ s really secure
You have a relationship with Christ. Remember, “You can do all things through Christ who gives you strength.” You can do all He calls you to do, because He will equip you for His call — and strengthen you when you need strength most. If you are facing insecurity in leadership, you may have to simply get better at walking by faith. “He who calls you is faithful, who also will do it” (1 Thessalonians 5:24).
Insecurity will weigh you down and hold you back as a person or leader. It will keep you from doing all you were called to do. Don’t let it!